
I’m listening to the book “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell and also some books on psychology, and I just had an epiphany:
Success comes from accepting what is.
In “”Blink,” Gladwell is talking about stocks, war, and relationships. Of course my psychology books are obviously covering a lot of the same things- these are the things we humans worry about. But “Blink” is analyzing how people were successful under stressful, fast-paced situations- Its’ looking back at what already happened and what the people were thinking during that experience. The psychology books discuss how to prepare yourself to be successful in situations like that… but before they happen. So both books are looking at stressful situations and decision making, but from the opposite sides of the situation.
But here’s the epiphany… Both of them say the same thing. Both say that your expectations about what should happen are premeditated disaster. Like any friends you know in a 12 step program might say: “Expectation is a premeditated disappointment.” Turns out this is true! So often in our lives, our expectations about what should and shouldn’t happen actually affect what happens, and even more so, affects our decision making process while it’s happening.
This is true in your brain. If you say you’re dumb at math, you will be. You quit too early, you find it frustrating and hard to focus, and you’ll hate having to do it. If you say you can’t be creative, same thing… Quitting too early, getting frustrated, giving up and doing poorly. Your brain listens to what you tell it.
Interesting side note… think of the music you listen to. The movies you watch. The gossip you get excited about and share. All of those experiences actually affect the way you see the world. They affect the feelings you will have. They affect the behavior you will exhibit in certain situations. Are you taking good care of your thoughts and emotions?
The bad news is that the brain listens to whatever it hears. But there’s good news, too:
The brain listens to whatever it hears.
Double edged sword, no? Check this out… You can start giving your brain different messages, and your brain will start to think and react differently. Guess what feelings are? Activity in your brain. You can change the way you feel about
situations by simply training your brain to think and feel differently. It’s up to you. There are two simple choices- Control your feelings, or be controlled by them. You get to choose your view about things by simply giving your brain more of the kinds of food for thought that you want to enjoy. More happy equals more happy. More mad equals more mad.
Of course I want you to do this with art. I want you to look at our inspiration sites like Abduzeedo and Media Militia and start training your brain to look at good art- to see colors, to enjoy good balance and get used to good design. I want you to open your mind to the possibility that you are more than you think you are and to start living the way you want to, not the way you think you “need” to or being controlled by your feelings.
But more than that I want you to do that with your view of the world. Guess what? Your view of the world is not reality. It’s reality through the filters of your emotions, your personal experiences, your brain’s training up till now. Don’t like the world? Maybe the world is more of a mirror than you think it is. Maybe what you don’t like is really inside, not “out there.” Reality is what it is… but your feelings are what YOU make them.
So my challenge to you- take a look. There are people living in straw huts with no food and they work 12 hours a day trying to grow food in a pile of rocks and they’re happy. They think the world is beautiful and they love life. And then there’s those people who eat every day, get free education in air conditioned buildings, have ipods and a closet full of clothes and they’re miserable.
Same world, different eyes.
And thanks to James for a perfect image to illustrate the point.
JOURNAL: What kind of eyes do you have? What kind of eyes do you want? What are you doing about it?